A**holes and Women in 60 Seconds— What happens when you’re being yourself, and the girl seems really nice… you get together, have a romance but then you fall in love and are naturally inclined to want to be more ‘soft’ with her (because you love her) and then she turns into a bitch once she realises that you are being ‘too nice’? Did that ever happen to you? Because it sort of makes you feel jaded that you have to keep up with some ‘rule’ about ‘being yourself’ that doesn’t involve being sensitive. Any thoughts?
— The problem here is that because a lot of girls have experience with complete doormats they might equate being nice as being a doormat sometimes, simply because experience tells them that’s what’s going on. They’re not wrong per se, but it’s subconsciously generalizing. If you get beat up by a dude of the same ethnicity 20 times in a row, you might start avoiding guys of that ethnicity in back alleys; doesn’t mean you’re a racist, but experience ‘is’ programming your behavior.
